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Monthly Column:
by Reverend
Anne Marie Evers
Dear
Anne Marie:
I
purchased your book, Affirmations Your Passport to
Happiness and I tried your Emptying the Cup Exercise
that write about.
You
see I had been seeing Ken, a married man for the past
twelve years. He had been telling me how unhappy he
was, promising to leave his wife and marry me and
start a new life, but it never was the right time. He
had to wait until his wife Sara finished one of her
courses, until he was in a better financial
position, until she was more emotionally stable, etc.
and on and on it went.
I
was starting to feel dirty and that I was a
second-class person. When I read the part in your book
about the Affirmation Rules, I realized why. You state
that (a) Affirmations must be written never to hurt or
take from anyone, (b) be to the good of all parties
concerned and (c) Contain at least a 51% believability
factor that it can manifest.
I
realized that my actions fell short on all three of
them. For the first time I began to put myself in
Sara's shoes and I felt empathy for HER. This was a
first for me as I always thought somehow it was her
fault that Ken was unhappy at home and cheating.
Then
I also realized that my actions were not to the good
of all parties concerned and that I was in fact taking
or hurting her by cheating with her husband.
Wow,
did this ever send me for a loop! Now that I realized
what I have done and am doing. I thought to myself
what can I do to stop it and change it?
I
decided to try your 'Emptying the Cup Exercise.' I
took a mug, one that I had given Ken last
Christmas with his name on it. I filled that mug with
water. Then I sat down with the water in my hand and
sent all my obsessive thoughts, negative thoughts,
angry thoughts into that water. I felt them coming out
through my eyes, nose, mouth and ears and dripping
into the water. When I felt the stream of emotion
subside, I took the cup, full of water to the sink. As
I slowly dumped that water down the sink, I thought to
myself, "Can I ever get that particular water
back, once it has gone down the sink?" Of course
I could not. And the good news was that all those
negative, obsessive, unhealthy thoughts about Ken went
down the drain with the water. Then I took a deep
breath and said, "Ken I release you and let you
go to your highest good and I release all feelings
that at not to my highest good and let them go. I am
free! Thank you God for my healed heart."
It
was incredible, after a few days I began to feel
different. I even walked different and people
commented on it. I ceased all communication with Ken,
did not return his phone calls and finally he got the
message and quit calling.
Also
those rose-colored glasses that I viewed Ken through
are now gone from my eyes, and I am able to see him
as he really is... a weak person who has no
regard for his marriage vows and I began to think he
would not have regard for our marriage vows either,
that is if we ever did get married.
I
began to love, respect and approve of myself just
the way I was and I began to change. After doing 'The
Extended Toothbrush Exercise' also outlined in your
book, I now hold my head up high. Every morning I get
up, look myself in the mirror and say The Extended
Toothbrush Exercise after I have brushed my teeth.
"Hey
Karen you are a mighty fine person. You are beautiful.
I, Karen now forgive everyone and everything that has
ever hurt me. I now forgive myself and feel that I am
forgiven. I now love, respect and approve of myself
just the way I am."
It
is so interesting that doing these two simple
exercises helped me do something that I had only
thought about doing for years. It made me take action.
Also I marked the 21 days off on the calendar so
I would not miss a day.
As
you say, "It takes 21 days to make a habit,
and now my habit is loving, respecting and approving
of myself and having empathy for others.
I
can't thank you enough. Keep up the great work as we
need people like you giving us the tools to make our
lives happier and more fulfilled. Everyone should
have a copy of your book to use as a Living Guide.
Karen
P.S.
I have just started my affirmation for a loving,
lasting, happy relationship with the perfect, single
man for me and I KNOW it is on its way. Thank
you, thank you, thank you |
